What is Family Adoption Services?
We are a small, privately owned, full service child placing adoption agency licensed by the State of Alabama. Rick is an attorney of 32 years and I am his wife, Susan. We are located in Birmingham, Alabama and with work with Mothers all over the State of Alabama.
The purpose of this post is to share information with you if you are considering placing your child with a loving “Forever Family.”
What do we do at Family Adoption Services?
My first contact with a Mother normally begins with a phone call. I will spend as much time as needed with you, sharing every bit of information I have and answering all of your questions. I want you to feel comfortable with me. I understand that making that phone call can be terrifying & emotional. I am here to listen to you. I am not going to judge you. How you got pregnant is none of my business. My goal is to explain what adoption is and how the process works. I will be with you in Labor and Delivery or the operating room. If you choose the “gift of adoption” for your child, I will hold your hand and go on that journey with you…I promise.
Whatever the circumstance, when I talk with you about adoption, my first goal is to help you understand that adoption is NOT abandonment. You are not “giving your baby away” or “giving up your baby for adoption.” I want you to think about “placing your baby in a loving, caring, safe home. I want you to know that your baby will have a wonderful future and opportunities that you might not be able to provide. I want you to think about what is in the best interest of your child. What is in your best interest and if you have other children, what is in their best interest. Some of our Moms have even called us from the hospital after their baby has been born. We have placed babies who are several months old, toddlers, sibling groups and older children. It’s never too late to call.
Rick and I want you to trust us and know that we will love and guide you through one of the most, loving and selfless decisions of your life. You are responsible for this child and we are certainly aware of your other two choices. As parents of 2 children who were adopted at birth, Hannah is 35 and Grant 32, I would not be a Mother or a “Mimi” if it was not for the gift of adoption. Two amazing young women carried their babies to term and trusted Rick and me to raise their child as our own. We pray for these women every day and we honor them.
I want you to feel joy and pride in helping to create a family. Your baby may be the first child in a forever family or you may choose a family who already has a child and your baby would have a sibling. The choice is yours.
I have talked with and worked with hundreds of women who choose adoption. I am not going to sugarcoat the adoption experience. It’s not easy. You may have feelings of sadness and grief. After giving birth, your hormones and your emotions might be like a rollercoaster. If you need counseling, I will find someone for you. If you need to talk, I will be here for you.
Your family and friends may not understand adoption. Sadly there is a stigma about adoption and they may try and make you feel shame. They may try and pressure you to change your mind. Many times families will promise to help and support a Mother and once she goes home, those promises are not kept and there isn’t anyone to help. Again, adoption is NOT abandoning your child. It is loving your child & yourself to make an amazing, selfless sacrifice to put your child first.
I have been asked many times by Mothers and “Forever Families” how did you explain adoption to your children? This is what I told them.
”There was something broken in my tummy and I couldn’t grow a baby. Daddy and I prayed and prayed and God answered our prayers. He chose a special woman to grow a baby in her tummy and she gave you to us as a “GIFT”, you are a special gift from God.
You can bless someone and create a family. Please pray about adoption.